Episode 1

Published on:

20th Sep 2023

Your All-Important First Step

Most of us start out in parenthood with a clear idea of the type of parent we want to be: calm, patient, attentive, and loving - but in reality it can be really difficult to be that chilled-out, calm parent when life is so frantic and parenting so chaotic!

It takes more than deep breathing and meditation to be a cool-headed parent. In this episode, I talk you through the very important first step to getting started with calmer parenting and how to make sure you keep it going. When it comes to making big changes, this is the best place to start. 

00:00 Show intro

01:47 The best parenting style for kids

03:17 The problem with parenting off our emotions

07:05 Two important declarations for calm parenting

07: 24 Your Actionable Take-Away Task

09:14 Chilled Out Tool In The Spotlight

12:06 Show wrap-up 

Key takeaways:

  • Various obstacles get in the way of being a calm, responsive parent. Parenting challenges and intense emotions can lead us to feel triggered and unable to respond helpfully.
  • Real-life parenting means we’re constantly trying to manage our emotional rollercoaster alongside meeting our children’s needs. When we’re not skilled at this, the two can collide. 
  • This can mean we use another parenting approach called reactive parenting, which can lead to yell, make threats and lose our temper. 
  • Until you learn to tame your intense feelings,  you’ll continue to be controlled by them, which will keep you from being the responsive parent you want to be.
  • Moving from being a mostly reactive parent to a mostly responsive parent starts with preparing your mindset for the journey ahead and making two important declarations.
  • Being a responsive parent takes practice and commitment but the rewards are worth it

If you'd like to know more about implementing calm, responsive parenting, you can get my book, Chilled Out Mum, here.

Need parenting help yesterday? Go here to book a call with me.

Ready for the next episode?

Stay tuned for the next episode of Chilled Out Parenting, where we’ll be taking a closer look at how to regulate your feelings when things get heated, so you can avoid resorting to shouting or losing your temper. I’ll be sharing a very easy but powerful strategy to help you stay calm when you feel pushed to your limits. Don't miss this one!

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About the Podcast

Chilled Out Parenting
Straightforward guidance for busy parents who want to raise happy, healthy kids
Welcome to Chilled Out Parenting, the podcast for parents who want less of the chaos, overwhelm and stress that comes with raising kids - and more calm, confidence and fulfillment so you can really enjoy those little humans you’ve made.

Released every Wednesday at 6am, Karina will share with you her best ideas and strategies for chilled out parenting, that not only makes family life easier and happier, but also shows you how to meet your children’s needs successfully, giving them a great foundation for a happy, healthy future.

A psychology graduate, parenting educator, coach and author, Karina is also a mum of four school children (including twins). She’s in the trenches with you and everything she shares has been tried and tested, so you can trust it to work for your family too!

Chilled out parenting is about being a calm, confident, conscious parent. Karina’s approach helps parents regulate their emotions and gain control of their triggers so they can be more present and responsive for their kids.

The results? Enhanced relationships, happy, healthy kids and a more peaceful parenting experience.

While we’re at it, we’ll overhaul your mental load, review your self-care and build your resilience and energy levels so you feel on top of your parenting game, every day.

Yes, there’s work to do, but Karina’s smart, streamlined approach makes it easy to make big changes.

Come discover a new parenting approach, where you can enjoy more family happiness, harmony and time for making memories. Ditch the overwhelm and guilt, raise incredible kids and stay sane along the way.

Yes, it’s possible!

Every week, Karina will not only share insightful parenting guidance but will also help you implement a new strategy, so that you get a positive win every time you join the podcast and take action.

Ready for powerful parenting without the sweat? Let’s get started!

About your host

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Karina Lane

Karina is a certified parenting coach, educator and author of the popular book Chilled Out Mum.