Episode 3

Published on:

11th Oct 2023

How To Support Your Child's Strongest Feelings

00:00 Show intro

01:28 Why it’s so important to work on supporting children’s emotions 

01:59 The big deal about EQ

02:52  How many parents respond to their child's feelings

06:44 What not to do when your child is in meltdown

07:34 3 easy steps to support your child’s big feelings

10:06 Your Actionable Take-Away Task

10:55 Chilled Out Tool In The Spotlight

13:24 Show wrap-up 

Key takeaways:

  • Children are born knowing how to express their feelings, but what they don’t know how to do is identify, process, and understand them
  • Emotional intelligence is defined as a person's ability to express and manage feelings appropriately and is a set of skills that children can begin learning at any age
  • Many parents unknowingly deny and distract their children from experiencing their feelings, which means they miss out on an important lesson about what their feelings are for.  
  • When we suggest a child’s problem isn’t that big a deal, or there are worse problems to have, this devalues their experience and emotions.
  • It’s important not to see tantrums and meltdowns as bad behaviour or something your child is doing on purpose. The worst thing we can do when our children are dysregulated is become angry at them or send them away to calm down on their own.
  • We want our children to understand that all feelings, even the really uncomfortable ones, are normal and healthy to have - and that everyone feels them.
  • Many parents spend more time problem-solving and giving advice rather than listening to their child’s feelings. Staying present and available is essential for supporting big feelings.

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Chilled Out Parenting
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Welcome to Chilled Out Parenting, the podcast for parents who want less of the chaos, overwhelm and stress that comes with raising kids - and more calm, confidence and fulfillment so you can really enjoy those little humans you’ve made.

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A psychology graduate, parenting educator, coach and author, Karina is also a mum of four school children (including twins). She’s in the trenches with you and everything she shares has been tried and tested, so you can trust it to work for your family too!

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Karina Lane

Karina is a certified parenting coach, educator and author of the popular book Chilled Out Mum.